To reveal another distinction between the fixed and growth mindsets, let’s examine broken relationships in light of these two worldviews.
Broken Relationships: Fixed Mindset
People who see the world through a fixed mindset and were hurt by a broken relationship, “felt judged and labeled by the rejection. Permanently labeled. It was as though a verdict had been handed down and branded on their foreheads: UNLOVEABLE! And they lashed out,” (p. 145). Their focus was revenge.
Broken Relationships: Growth Mindset
For growth-mindset people, “… [a broken relationship] was about understanding, forgiving, and moving on.” The hurt was still there, but their focus was not revenge, but learning.
A blog on relationships in “mindset: The New Psychology of Success” is included in this series, because schools are social environments. Relationships abound; and Dr. Carol Dweck addresses relationships, friendships, shyness, and bullying in a manner that is cause for reflection.
Note: This blog is a brief introduction, not a detailed treatise, on Dr. Dweck’s writing on relationships. A reading of the book can provide more detail.